Afraid to LoVe... or Afraid to LoSe?!

Come to think of it, is love what we are really afraid of? Change the letter of that word, and you get the word "LoSe." A guy loses whwn the girl he's courting happens to fall for someone else. a girl loses whwn her husband cheats on her and chooses the mistress instead. A lover loses when the loved one decides that he or she wouldn't have anything to do with another person anymore. these scenarios can happen in all kinds of variations. The sad thing is, thay all bring about another way to hurt you. Sometimes this kind of hurt becomes too much for a person to bear, it can cause sickness, it can cause an effin' depression, it can cause all kinds of reactions whether for the good or bad. The worst case of which would be suicidal attempts. Now that probably occurs when the person in love feels he or she has lost everything including pride, hope, happiness... and even the sole will to live -- because of the pain that love brought about.

I guess ahat I'm really trying to say here i that it is NOT love that some of us are afraid of. I mean, what is there to fear about love, right? Love is such a wonderful feeling. It inspires, it makes our lives so much brighter, it gives us an opportunity to make someone feel special. it is not really something to be afraid of. What we are afraid of, though, is to lose, and the pain that threatens to come along with love, as well. To lose the inspiration that love can bring. To lose one's self so much in the pleasure of loving and being loved for fear that it might not last long. To lose the feeling of being wanted. Sometimes, these things come unexpectedly when we fall in love, and we mistake the fear of losing for the fear of loving. That is why we hold back. But then, if we don't risk letting ourselves fall in love, we might regret it. As the saying goes "it is better to have loved and lost thatn not to have loved at all. Mushy and idealistic, isn't it? But it's most probably true.

(NOTE: I'm not on love in any manner of feelings might be. I just miss the feeling of being in an intimate relationship and inform everyone here that we are NOT, really afraid of LoVe, but the tragic and traumatic LoSe).